The Man’s Guide to the Perfect Marriage Proposal @ The Art of Manliness

There are a few things you must keep in mind when contemplating the way that you will propose marriage to your lady. First, this is a memorable moment, which will be told and retold over the years to your friends, family, children, and grandchildren. Make it a story worth telling. Secondly, every woman is different; make your proposal specific to her taste and personality. Some women would love nothing more than to have all their friends and family be witness to the event, while others would much prefer a private and intimate moment with you alone. First and foremost, make sure the way in which you ask makes her comfortable.

Make it a story worth telling…..of course this is near and dear to my heart and the humor of how everyone’s expectations are botched in funny little ways is part of the cuteness of such an enormous expectation.  The expectation is the lock on the woman’s heart - and meeting it is the key to winning that heart with the Man’s gesture.  I’m writing this for the Men so this is how you have to think of it:

Give her some bragging rights!

Seriously, she needs to be able to brag you up to her friends and family - and doing this right will help her do that and give her a greater sense of confidence as she earns their approval and admiration from the story you create.  A great story makes her feel unique and special at the same time. 

Listen to couples tell their engagement story, and listen for the elements that were important to them.

MUTO a wall-painted animation by BLU from blu on Vimeo.

Planning and patience, wow - that was an amazing project!

Plan some time for pictures into your wedding schedule - and we’ll be able to be creative and allow you and your husband to have time to relate.  If we’re all feeling rushed, it doesn’t allow for the creativity to bloom the same way!

What does a relationship look like, if you had to pick a single photo to illustrate yours?

I had to break the rules to get this shot of Charlie, the church rules that is. I think he’ll appreciate the memory more than the church lady appreciates me!

Just to be fair to Charlie, he’s not the weepy type - that was just his wedding after all! Apples were a part of their wedding theme and so I put a few in Charlie’s hands to help show their active and humorous side.  The various moments that make up a wedding, are colored each day by the client’s personalities and the personality of their relationship.  I always try to make colorful pictures.

So that’s a quick look at a relationship within a few photos, I always try to grasp the multiple facets of your wedding and relationship and more blog posts about what a relationship looks like can be found here.

I listen to the Camera Position Podcast by Jeff Curto and thought listening to it and thinking it through would help all of you making decisions about what type of wedding photographer to hire.

Entry #62 poses the question - Is Beauty Enough?

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“Why do most great pictures look un-contrived? The deception is necessary if the goal of art is to be reached. Only pictures that look as if they have been easily made can convincingly suggest that beauty is commonplace.“

This simple quote strikes to the heart of the struggle of ‘choosing a wedding photographer’ when the issues of budget and beauty, of posing and photojournalism collide in your mind.

I hope you enjoy the podcast and this bit of art theory and criticism as you contemplate your photography investment and how it might pay off for you in the future. I hope our pictures look easily made to your eye, because the beauty I see is all around me.

For us, beauty is not in the way your wrinkles can be erased out of the way, but how they can so easily be overlooked when the picture is of a genuine moment or thought - and thereby looks so easily made. While photojournalism is a good word for what we do, it’s become an overused catchphrase in the wedding industry - but an understanding that we strive to make our work as ‘un-contrived’ as possible every time we shoot is probably the best way to understand what we do. The most common, and the most satisfying complement we get from our photos is “it feels just like we were there!” And that complement may not be coming from someone who attended the wedding!

If you are considering spending 5-10,000 on wedding photography and are unsure of what style photographer you want to go with, maybe you should consider reading Robert Adams short collection of essays on Beauty in Photography to find your personal preference for beauty and meaning in photographs. Maybe you’ll even decide the most lasting perspective or approach for capturing your family memories. I would not wish for you to have a personal preference of ‘romanticism’, where you prefer imaginative poses or very stylized images, and hire someone who spends their time finding unique moments of personal interaction. I would equally regret for you to be enticed by overtly romanticized wedding photos and 10 years from your wedding regret that a more inclusive approach had been taken that captures how much your grandmother appreciated being a part of your wedding.

I intend for you creative blessing and peace in your choice,

 

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I developed this multimedia presentation to share with all my clients where art comes from:

So do you know where the best art comes from now?

I didn’t include the story of Courtney and Charlie’s first date, but if you’d like to listen to it here:

…you can see how their engagement shoot reflected their first date and how tucker got included.

In case it’s not totally clear, the framed photos are the shadowbox that I made with Charlie’s input. The frame is antiqued barn wood, and it has a two inch deep sealed wooden shadow frame. The glass is painted from the inside to harmonize with the weathered edges of the photos and handmade paper in the backing. The photos are mounted on raw nails to avoid adhesives which lower the archival stability of the piece.

I look forward to blessing more and more of your lives with joy, strength, memories and moments

Creative Chaos #14

 

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